First, let’s agree that most adults are having sex, or at least have had sex. Oops, a more important first — if you’re not at least eighteen years old, stop reading and go read another of our articles. Fine, Medium and Broad is in no way, shape, or form discussing sex with minors. Now that we settled that.
The most honest thing anyone can say about kinky versus perverted is that one person’s kink is another persons’ perversion.
Now let’s take a look at a common kink; “the back door,” “Greek,” or “trip to the islands” — all common euphemisms for anal sex. In polite company, we might be required to pretend to disapprove of a trip to the islands. Still, we found one survey that showed that 38.2 percent of men between 20 and 39 and 32.6 percent of women ages 18 to 44 engage in heterosexual anal sex, and those percents are on the rise.
Since we’re back there, here’s a question for you, pegging — kink or perversion? Pegging is the term for a woman anally penetrating a man while wearing a strap-on. Of course, pegging, anal sex might be our definition of what makes a guy gay, but it’s not necessarily so. According to a 2012 study published in the journal Sex Roles, sticking to traditional gender roles could make us feel less comfortable between the sheets. Yep,“less comfortable.” Dr. Charlie Glickman, a sexuality educator, found that straight men who had tried pegging were more in tune with what their female partner needed from them during penetration. The concept of pegging isn’t new, but its mainstream acceptance is. It seems to have started, the acceptance, with an episode of the television show Broad City. So, pegging, kink or perverted? Kink.
Time for an all-time favorite, BSDM. If you didn’t know, that stands for bondage, sadism, dominance, and masochism. BDSM is generally basically considered normal. Though there is a vast spectrum. You could go off the deep end with this. But who doesn’t like being tied up every now and then? A study conducted in the Netherlands showed that “BDSM practitioners were less neurotic, more extraverted, more open to new experiences, more conscientious, less rejection sensitive, had higher subjective well‐being, yet were less agreeable (particularly among those who assumed the ‘dominant (‘dom’) role.” Get out the blindfold and handcuffs; if you want, it’s okay.
We can talk about kink without talking about bestiality. But we’re not. So we looked at some stats from the Kinsey reports. Remember, researchers at the Kinsey Institute are the grownups in the room when it comes to talking about how Americans feel about sex. They claim that in the ’40s and 50’s the percentage of people who had sexual interaction with animals at some point in their lives was 8% for men and 3.6% for women, and claimed it was 40–50% in people living near farms, but some people dispute farm the figures. These figures have dropped over the years. It’s been suggested that fewer people report sex with animals is because the farm population had dropped. By 1974, the farm population in the USA dropped by 80 percent from where it was in 1940. Fewer people living near animals means fewer people having sex with animals. A study after 1974 reports sexual interactions between males and animals was 4.9% (1948: 8.3%), and in females, it was only 1.9% (1953: 3.6%). So, sex between people and animals happens. But we firmly call this perverted, with slight, very slight, apologies to anyone offended by our opinion.
When it comes to kinky sex, we’ve only scratched the surface. There are so many things adults do that they don’t talk about: motor-boating, rimming, gagging, klismaphilia, role play, etcetera, etcetera. Practiced with consent and practiced safely, they’re kinky. And, of course, you’re more than free to call them perversions if asked. But what you and your partner do behind a closed door is no one’s business.